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Julie Henderson's avatar

Thank you, Tiffany, for this vulnerable post. I enjoyed it very much. M sounds like a keeper.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

He definitely is. Thank you so much for reading, Julie.

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Julie Henderson's avatar

You are very welcome, Tiffany. Thank you for the response.

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Rebecca D. Martin's avatar

Much of what you share about yourself and your relationship with M feels familiar to me. I’m still afraid to be fully seen, but less than before.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Same! I vacillate between wanting to be seen, but also being afraid of being seen. It's taken a lot of toe-dipping over the years to be a little more comfortable with it. Here on this journey with you, Rebecca.

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David Roberts's avatar

Beautiful description of what a great marriage can provide.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you, David. I'm very lucky.

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Victoria's avatar

Thank you, for this Tiffany: 'For the first time, I learned how speaking truths into existence can heal.'

I can pin that to an exact moment in my journey as well—too personal to share out of context, so I'll await the future article, my inner muse decides to choose, to paint the picture.

You've woven a beautiful picture of love here of yourself, for M and for what you have. It's a soulful read.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you so much, Victoria. I look forward to your future article.

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Miriam Cruz's avatar

This is so beautiful 🥹 and resonated so deeply in so many ways. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you, Miriam! I'm so glad it resonated with you.

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TheUltraContemplative's avatar

This is so tender, intimate and so brave of you to share. Tiffany, I was the first one in my family to be born in the US and my dad wanted me to be American so badly that English was the only language I grew up with. Consequently, I don't speak native Filipino (Tagalog) which immediately sets me apart from other Filipinos and ironically, even though I was born and raised here, I was always seen as different (I grew up in the '60s and '70s) --pre-woke America. This wonderful portrait you've shared resonates with me so much. So happy that M sees you and hears you for who you are. Thank you so much for this.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

I appreciate you sharing about your experience, Steve. It's such an odd space to be in, of being born here yet still being seen as foreign. It made me think of how no matter where I was born or how long my family has lived in the U.S., my children and grandchildren, etc. will still be seen as immigrants. That narrative really needs to change.

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TheUltraContemplative's avatar

Thanks, Tiffany, it is odd isn't it. My daughters and their generation and the generations to come give me hope. Their color, gender and every other kind of blindness gives me hope that the narrative of exclusivity that we still experience will be replaced with genuine inclusivity.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Oh, I really, really hope so! It would be wonderful.

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Solomon Maxwell's avatar

nice

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thanks!

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Sarah Li-Cain's avatar

What a beautiful dedication to M.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you, Sarah.

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Liya Marie's avatar

What beautiful writing! That almost made me emotional.

I've lived in both Taiwan and San Diego, too. They are worlds apart.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Wow, thank you, Leah. That's so cool that you lived in San Diego and Taiwan!

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Faith Chang's avatar

I love this piece so much—it is beautiful and makes my heart ache in the best ways. Thank you for writing it.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Faith, your comment made me so happy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this, and I'm glad it connected with you.

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Heidi Tai's avatar

Beautiful, vulnerable and relatable words for Asians feeling stuck between cultures. Thanks for sharing and “M” sounds amazing! 🥰

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you! M is the best. ^-^

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Rachel Ooi's avatar

I admire your courage to write with such vulnerability. I am so glad you found your home, and with M. I also always told my husband, then boyfriend, that he made me feel at home. I found my home with him.

And boy, you write so eloquently :)

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

We are so lucky, aren't we?? I love that you found home in your husband too. And thank you. 🩵

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Jane Pike's avatar

What a gorgeous essay Tiffany- thank you. Your words were like being invited into a part of your life through a secret window. So tender and beautiful.

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you, Jane. I'm really grateful you connected with them, and so, so glad you're here.

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Sarina Zoe's avatar

This touched me deeply ❤️

What a beautiful piece

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

I so appreciate you for reading this, Sarina.

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Allysha Lavino's avatar

This is so beautifully written and easy to read. I love the self-reflection and honest inquiry. This is such a descriptive and relatable image for me as a writer,” When someone asks me to tell them about myself, my words stumble over one another like a series of ellipses and awkward pauses without an ending punctuation mark.”

I feel like for years I built up an easy answer to that unanswerable “Who are you” just to avoid those ellipses being audible in public. Substack has been an amazing space to explore what comes out if I’m not afraid to just let myself speak the truth of any given moment.

Thank you for speaking your truth here and carving space for others to do the same. 💜

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you, Allysha. It's beautiful how you've found writing as a way to explore those parts of yourself and find your truth. I'm so glad you're here.

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Kaitlyn Rightmyer's avatar

“But I have lived a life of silence, restrained by a culture I did not choose, by a world I could not comprehend, by those who brought me into that world, who would not hear my voice.” Gosh, do I see you. 🤍

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Tiffany Chu's avatar

Thank you for seeing me, Kaitlyn.

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